It's said that one of the key elements of trust is congruence.
When I think of the word, I remember my high school geometry class, when I learned about angles and exchanged tips on playing The Sims with classmates.
Congruence, it turns out, is an element of trust too. It's about "saying and doing what you believe, walking the talk, being straightforward, and being consistent." (Find out more in this link: https://www.leadershipmastery.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/understanding-trust.pdf)
Easier said than done? Perhaps. But let's think about this for a moment:
1. Being trustworthy means saying and doing what you believe.
If you say one thing and do another, how will people believe what you say, or think that what you're ding is genuine?
Others can tell if you're sincere with what you say or do. Call it an inborn BS-detector, but people can sense this stuff.
2. Being trustworthy means doing what you say.
You'll say you'll do it, but don't. Will people want to work with you? Will they believe you when you tell them something?
They'll most likely go with someone who is consistent with what they say and what they do.
3. Being trustworthy means being straightforward.
Do you tend to beat around the bush?
Do you tend to not say what you really think?
These type of actions do not promote trust.
4. Being trustworthy means being consistent.
If you consistently show that there is a match between your words and actions, then people naturally will trust you more.
They may or may not like you, but because they know there is consistency between your word and deed, they know what they can expect from you.
So, the big question is, are you congruent? Remember - there's always room to further grow in your ability to be so!
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